What is the key to raising a smart, compassionate and grounded child? While experts might debate the strengths and weaknesses of various methods, it doesn’t appear that there is one, perfect model. Research indicates,however, that the formula for giving your child less than a perfect chance at a happy, secure and normal life is actually more predictable; especially when parents involve children in parental conflict. There are various studies that indicate that children of high conflict divorce, for example, are more likely to experience mental health problems, behavioral disturbances, and substance abuse problems than their peers.Read More
How does a parent learn “to parent”? Many new parents are apprehensive when it’s time to bring a baby home. As most of us have learned, the parenting books or other helpful or friendly advice from relatives, friends and complete strangers at the grocery store are not always what our particular child (or children) need. The same is true for what we and our spouses think is the best for a child.
Parenting practices and styles often vary widely based on our own upbringing, education, culture, local societal norms, and expectations. Parenting styles also tend to change between generations. Parenting practices are specific behaviors that we utilize to parent our children. Parenting styles are the strategies that we use to communicate and build relationships with our children. These styles and strategies affect how we bond with our children, discipline them, and expect them to develop into maturity. An example of a parenting practice would be the decision to allow your child to play in the middle of a busy intersection. An example of parenting style is a parent’s practice of allowing his or her child to explore and learn without attempting to control or micro-manage learning experiences.Read More
Like many of you, I have a special place in my heart for Kevin McCallister, the young protagonist in the blockbuster series “Home Alone”. That kid is resourceful like no other. He masterfully keeps his house safe and effectively outwits the villains using creative and imaginative methods that would elude most adults. All turns out for the best in these movies and his parents are none the wiser. That’s Hollywood, of course, and not the situation that many parents face now that summer is in full swing, some with no viable options for daycare.
When is it okay to leave a child home alone?
The short answer is “it depends”. Washington does not have a minimum age requirement, although most experts agree that age 12 is a good place to start. A parent must also consider a child’s maturity, appreciation of danger and risk, and ability to reach out to safe adults in the event of emergency.
A great resource for parents is the Washington State Department of Social and Health Services Website and online guide entitled “Home alone: When can you safely leave children by themselves”. This publication provides some common sense suggestions and considerations for parents thinking about leaving a child home alone.
Ask these questions before leaving your child home alone:
- Does your child express fear or apprehension about being left at home alone?
- Does your child typically be trusted to follow your instructions and rules?
- Is your child typically truthful with you?
- Would your child be able to keep calm in the event of an unexpected or emergency situation?
- Would your child know how to dial 911, give their full name (and yours), street address and phone number, and explain the situation?
Parents who have a parenting plan should first determine whether there are any restraints on leaving a child alone or other requirements before doing so. Leaving a child home alone may not be right for every child, but in some cases, can be a valuable learning and developmental experience for both parent and child. Call us now if you have questions about whether your parenting plan limits your ability to leave a child home alone or contains other requirements for supervision.
A great family law attorney will walk you through the changes in your life with skill and compassion. At Tario & Associates, P.S., we have been practicing family law since 1979 and have helped thousands of Bellingham families settle their legal needs. Please contact us today for a free consultation. We are here to help!Read More